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At the gym this week one of the regular members came over and said to me "You're looking really good, what's your secret?". It's great when you get compliments like that isn't it? It certainly made me feel that my continuing efforts in this area pay off.
"Do you really want to hear the truth?", I said. "It's the food. You have to watch what you eat, plan your eating, have more protein and less carbohydrate, very minimal fat and avoid junk food."
Notice I said 'avoid junk food'. It doesn't mean I don't have chocolate or cake, etc. but I limit my intake. I also exercise each day... weight training 3 times a week and run 3 times a week but I do the least I have to in the shortest period of time. Believe me if all I had to do was walk 30 minutes a day to keep in shape, I would. Anyhow, I'm not a fanatic compared to some people I know... Phil is one of those fanatics.
Phil exercises 6 - 7 days a week but he's getting fatter. He trains so hard, it's ridiculous. He can't get the weight off because of his poor eating habits and his emotional state. He didn't tell me that, but it was obvious to me. Phil is 59.
What he did tell me was...
- He has junk food stored at home (My interpretation: non-supportive environment - setting himself up to fail)
- Drinks too much alcohol (My interpretation: uses this to deaden some of the pain he experiences in his life)
- Goes to the supermarket some nights and buys chocolate ( My interpretation: he's bored and also uses this as an emotional fix)
As he had approached me to find out what I had been doing, I couldn't help myself but offer him some solutions:
- Get rid of the junk food and get his family involved to help support his goal.
- Go to Weightwatchers and get educated about food. It's ongoing education and a very supportive environment... and it works!
- See a counsellor to deal with his relationship problems.
You see Phil thought he could exercise his problems away. Sure exercise helps but it was only a part of the solution. He's been doing this for a long time and getting nowhere. ( How often in life have you continued doing the same thing without getting the outcome you desired?)
Phil needed to identify what the real problems were or should I say face up to the truth and then find the right solutions.
In business you can often think that with better marketing and more capable staff your business and your life will improve. However if you're disorganised and the internal business systems are the same (which is very common), then your ability to cope with additional work and find and retain good people will diminish greatly.
Through my work with small business, I find the personal strengths and weaknesses of the boss directly impact the business... for better or worse.
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